Parenting a teenager is never simple, but parenting a teen on the autism spectrum brings unique challenges. Maybe your teen shuts down when routines shift. Or they’re overwhelmed by school, friendships, or sensory overload.
You’re trying to help, but nothing seems to work, and you’re left feeling frustrated and alone. If this sounds familiar, you are not alone, and there is a way forward.
Hi, I’m Daniel Jones, a Licensed Social Worker at Manhattan Teen & Young Adult Psychology. I help teens on the autism spectrum, and their families, navigate challenges, build emotional regulation, and strengthen communication.
You know your teen best. I’m here to come alongside you with tools, perspective, and a plan that fits your family’s real life.
It’s hard when you feel like you’re constantly managing meltdowns, shutdowns, or confusion, and still not getting through. But the truth is, you can parent with more confidence and less stress.
With the right understanding and support, your relationship with your teen can grow stronger, even in the hard moments.
Here are three strategies that you can implement today:
1. Regulate Before You Relate.
If you stay grounded, your teen feels safer. Breathe. Soften your tone. Show them you’re calm and present.
2. Speak Clearly & Visually.
Autistic teens often benefit from visual cues and direct language. Try schedules, visual reminders, and straightforward explanations.
3. Connect Before Correcting.
Before jumping in to redirect or discipline, ask yourself: “Does my teen feel connected to me right now?”
Trust and connection reduce emotional reactivity, and increase cooperation over time.
Resources
Education & Advocacy
- Autism Speaks: Transition to Adulthood
Covers high school transitions, life skills, and independence. - The Autism Society
Offers parent toolkits, community support, and up-to-date resources. - Organization for Autism Research (OAR): “A Parent’s Guide to Research” & Teen Life Toolkit
Books for Parents
- Uniquely Human: A Different Way of Seeing Autism by Dr. Barry Prizant
- The Loving Push by Temple Grandin and Debra Moore
- Parenting a Teen or Young Adult with Asperger Syndrome by Brenda Boyd
Support & Community
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MyAutismTeam – A social network for parents of children on the spectrum
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Facebook Groups:
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“Parents of Teens with Autism Spectrum Disorder”
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“Autism Spectrum Support Group for Parents”
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Always remember: your teen has strengths. Passion, honesty, creativity. Those strengths are the foundation for growth.
There’s no one-size-fits-all path, but there is a path. You can learn new tools. Your teen can build new skills. And you can get through this together with less friction and more connection.
If you’re feeling stuck or just ready for support, I’d love to help. Schedule an appointment with me today, and let’s create a plan to help your teen, and your family, thrive.