Though divorce is never the intended plan when starting a family, it is a reality that some marriages do end.
Divorce creates so much uncertainty for children which can create anxiety and confusion and can lead to a negative impact on your child.
They may feel as if they share some of the blame, or they might fear that they will have to choose one of the parents.
So, here are 4 ways parents can minimize the uncertainty of divorce for their teen.
1 – Continually Say The Important Things
A divorce is a big shake-up for the family, so staying consistent with your affirmations will help the child remain stable and grounded.
Giving assurances and reassurances about the important things, saying things like, “We both love you and that will not change.”
It’s important to remember to follow through with promises.
2 – Stay Positive and Stay United
Reassure your child that though you will all no longer be in the same house, you are all still a team, and both parents will still be there every step of the way for them.
3 – Encourage Expression
Be patient with all of your child’s emotions, and let them know whatever they are feeling is OK. They will need all of your support during this time, without judgment or stipulations.
4 – Be Concise, Straightforward, and Honest
Let your kids know exactly what will be happening. Knowing the details of things like where they will be staying on certain days will ease the uncertainty that they are experiencing.
The most important thing is to make sure your child understands that no matter the circumstances, they are loved and will always have you there to support them.
If you want to ensure your divorce process is as smooth as possible for your teen and would like extra support to help your children process the divorce process, schedule an appointment today, I can help.