Being a teenager often means navigating a complex social landscape. Peer pressure can be a major hurdle, and sometimes, emotions can cloud your ability to communicate effectively.
Hi, I’m Dr. Dayana Jiménez, founder, owner, and clinician at Manhattan Teen & Young Adult Psychology. And in this video, I’ll discuss the communication skills you need to confidently deal with peer pressure.
1 – Know Your Values
What things are important to you that help guide you through life? Is honesty important? Maybe you prioritize kindness or helping others.
Take a few moments to write down the beliefs that are most important to you.
Once you know your core beliefs, think about what behaviors align with them and what doesn’t. For instance, if kindness is key – you wouldn’t want to be pressured to do something you think is unkind.
In those instances, you can take a mindful moment, notice how you’re feeling and ask yourself, “is this something I really want to do?”
2 – Use “I” Statements
“I” statements are fantastic tools for navigating peer pressure because they shift the focus from blaming others to expressing your own feelings and needs.
“I,” statements immediately establish that you are talking about your own perspective.
Instead of saying something like… “I am not really sure I want to drink.”
Try saying, “I know everyone is drinking – it just doesn’t feel right for me so I’m gonna pass.“
This directly communicates that you are not okay with something or identifies what you would rather do.
Remember, using “I” statements allows you to be clear and assertive without putting someone else on the defensive. This increases the chances of a positive outcome in a pressured situation.
3 – Use The Broken Record Technique
The broken record technique is another tool for dealing with persistent peer pressure.
The idea here is to prepare what you want to say in a situation. When someone tries to pressure you, politely but firmly refuse their offer or request. The key is to repeat your refusal in a calm, confident and steady way, even if they keep asking.
For example you can plan a statement like, “Yeah I want to stay at the party but I got a big test tomorrow.” And just repeat this over and over if you were being pressured.
And, if the person keeps pushing, you can politely change the subject to something else. This shows you’re not interested in continuing the conversation about the pressured activity.
By firmly repeating your refusal, you show you’re resolute in your decision. This technique helps to get your point across and avoids getting drawn into an argument.
If you’re struggling with peer pressure, talking to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist can be helpful.
Here at Manhattan Teen & Young Adult Psychology, we provide a safe and supportive space for you to develop communication skills, build confidence, and navigate the challenges of growing up.
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